Dear 12 year old me,

The world is a huge and wonderful place, don’t be stuck focusing on the present and the immediate. There are so many things you can do with your life and so many paths you can follow to success, don’t follow the easiest route, I promise it will be worth the hard work and the struggles.

Make any decisions YOUR decisions. Don’t let other people influence the important decisions in your life, it is your future, you can take yourself wherever you want to go. Focus on your future and make the right decisions for yourself even if this means being selfish, you can’t plan your life around other people’s lives; it won’t get you anywhere. Grasp every opportunity and get the most out of it, don’t let fear control your decisions and hold you back because in the end you’ll regret the chances you didn’t take.

Be yourself ALWAYS. Don’t try to change to fit in with the people around you because you’ll lose yourself and it will take you a long time to find yourself again. If people don’t love you for who you are, then find new people to surround yourself with, friends come and go. Don’t get bogged down with heartbreak and boys, it reallyyyyy IS NOT worth it. One day the perfect man will come along and sweep you off of your feet, it might not happen for years but it will happen, so don’t settle for second best with a boy who ‘isn’t even that nice anyway’! You deserve so much more than that. Don’t waste time with people who don’t actually care.

Don’t stress. One day you’ll be where you should be, doing what you should be, with who you should be – if you work hard. There’s no point stressing about things that you can’t change. Focus all of your attention on the positive things in your life and eliminate the negatives, don’t get yourself down with drama and unwanted thoughts, you can overcome it.

Be proud of yourself and be confident, don’t allow anyone to knock you down and make you feel like you’re not good enough. One person’s ‘ugly’ is another person’s ‘beautiful’.  Stick up for yourself and be strong, don’t back down, you need to know your worth, don’t let yourself be treated cruelly by anyone. The world is a nasty place and it it will beat you until your down, rise above that and keep smiling, keep striving to be better, keep being the Nicole that you want to be.

Most importantly, it doesn’t matter who else is proud of you, as long as you’re proud of yourself and you are where you want to be, keep telling yourself that it is YOUR life, YOUR decisions, YOUR mistakes, YOUR lessons, YOUR future and YOUR happiness. Take everybody else out of the equation and focus on yourself, give yourself that much deserved break and ‘me time’ that you work hard for.

Be you and be proud of who you are x


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